7/28/2018 0 Comments Your personal apperance in public!Personal taste, personal hygiene, personal grooming habits, appreciation for a mate who cares about their appearance. The key word here is " personal ".
Working hard, paying bills, being a productive member of society, spending time in furthering your education, spending time improving relationships, etc., is a completely different effort made in your own appearance. You definitely do not have to have an upscale professional career that requires you to dress nice, don't have to be an avid lover of high fashion, upscale attire or name brands, and in my opinion you don't have to have a lot of money, to make an effort on your appearance. I think if you actually care, put thought and effort into your personal appearance, you're more likely to value that, maybe even demand it, from your mate. Birds of a feather usually flock together. I feel there are several reasons someone let's themselves go and stops caring about their appearance. Can be health related and impossible to change back. Can be career related, maybe stopped having a career outside the home and became a housewife. Another reason can be because they, themselves have gotten extremely comfortable, so comfortable within that relationship, they don't care about how they look anymore. There are also people who used to both, dress nice while out in public together, visiting family or having guests over, then both stop. The lack of attention when someone makes the time to look extra nice and special, can result in a negative reaction. If your spouse used to always compliment you, then stops, or it's become rare, that can make many people feel there's no real reason to dress nice anymore. Anyone who knows me, even a little bit, knows how plain I am, especially at home. I don't apply makeup to go grocery shopping, to check the mail or when I have guests or clients. It's not my norm. I usually don't apply makeup and style a wig, just to go shopping or visiting family. I'm at home every single day. I work at home, in our home, from home. I have clothes for every day, and all my activities. I don't wear a ball gown at home while cooking and cleaning, or to go visiting family. Yet what I wear to lounge in, housewife duties, or while I'm working online, I wouldn't wear when I have clients, guests, or going out in public. Okay so, that's just me, and everyone ain't like me. I can relate and deal with that because it's a FACT. I have seen people who won't leave the house without a full face of makeup, others than won't wear anything unless its name brand, or fleshly pressed and clean clothes. It doesn't matter where they go, who they see, they spend time and make a direct effort on their appearance every day. I can't relate to applying a full face of makeup to go run errands, to visit or have visitors. I can't relate to only dressing upscale every day. I can't relate to only buying expensive name brands. I can't relate to dressing fancy just to cook, clean or run errands. There's such a huge grey area in between upscale and fancy, and sloppy and lounging alone at home attire. Most people can't relate and wouldn't be dressing in a gown and tux for dinner every night. Ok so why would you wear the same clothing, to go visit family, go to an event, a public place to have fun with friends, somewhere special just not upscale, and wear what you wear to clean up your house? There are people who wake up, shower, brush their teeth, and throw on anything. They reach for the 1st thing they see, they put on wrinkled clothes, clothes they wore all day, before they showered, clothes they wore all day, the day before while running errands. Sure you're showered, what happened to caring about your appearance because you're going out in public? What about going the extra mile because you're not simply going to run errands? What about your personal taste in fashion? What about caring that your mate, family or friends enjoy seeing you look nice or dress up? I've always thought it looked odd when a celebrity woman dresses really nice, I mean the total package is there and everything is high quality and put together well, but her mate is dressed in basketball, gym attire with jeans, tennis shoes, etc. The styles are just different, but what's the same is the obvious awareness and importance of their appearance, to them and others. Maybe he's in jeans, Jersey and sneakers, but it's all nice, all matches, all of its clean, pressed and prepared. Whatever your personal style and taste are, pertaining to your appearance, no matter what, your appearance in public speaks way before you ever do! It shows exactly what you want people to know, without knowing you, it a direct reflection of the real you, on the inside. Your appearance shows how much effort and consciousness, it shows how much YOU care about yourself! There is no personal style involved, no consideration of your mate or others, no awareness on how it effects everything you do in public, and very little effort,.... in simply waking up, showering or not, throwing on clothes from yesterday, that are on the floor and wrinkled! I've felt this way since I can remember. Sure I love brand new clothes, name brand clothes, fancy upscale attire. I don't need that to look more than groomed. To say, your clean is basically saying that, only because you're not dirty, you look okay. Comparing something to something else, that's obviously negative, means what you're trying to justify isn't positive, and the only way to make it seem okay, is to compare it to something bad, or something worse. If other peoples appearance don't inspire you, so be it. What about you personally though? You personally feel ok looking sloppy? You personally don't feel odd or out of place when your mate or family visibly took the extra time to look extra nice, but you didn't? You don't feel odd putting on clothes you wore all day, the previous day to run around in or work in, after you've showered on a brand new day? You don't feel the need to somewhat plan outfits for special events, iron them, and lay them out? Believe me it's not like anyone who feels like that, can actually cover that outlook, up! Actions show folks, period, especially a course of actions and repeated pattern. No, you don't have to care about your appearance in public, to be a nice person, a caring person, a funny person, a talented person, an educated person, an older person, a rich person, a model or actor, or have a professional career in biz. You can be hard working, loyal, honest, and more, has nothing to do with YOU caring about your appearance. No, your clothes don't have to be April fresh, dry cleaned, pressed out, upscale, fancy and expensive, for you to be a productive member of society. Ask yourself this though, if people of the same gender, even the ones who dress how you consider nicely, don't inspire or motivate you, do you yourself enjoy and value a beautiful woman who's well dressed with the total package? A beautiful woman with great personal hygiene, regular grooming routine, has clean hair, fresh breath, lovely smelling perfume, soft luscious skin, finger and toe nails groomed and painted, flattering clothing, and spent hours getting ready? If that's all of value and brings you excitement and joy, then why wouldn't you do those EXACT same things, in return? I don't lie and I hate liars. I'm never ever in life going to tell someone they look cute, pretty, nice, good, love their clothes, hairdo, or things like their makeup, if I truly hate it or dislike it, SIMPLY to kiss up, kiss ass, pump them up for the sake of benefitting me, in return. I don't give compliments in hopes to get one back. Something or someone looks good, looks attractive, or smells fabulous, I will tell them. Compliments from me are genuine, just like the conversations I have with clients, friends, family, my publicist, my doctor, or even a perfect stranger at a casino. I don't compliment others to get ahead with them, or to get one back. If you look fabulous and I notice, I'm gonna say something. A beautiful woman who is clean yes, lol, but every aspect of what attracts you is present! Fresh breath, clean hair, groomed nails, flattering clothing, clean clothes, soft skin, lovely perfume, maybe even sexy under garments on, underneath a dress,...... TELL HER!!! " when you care enough to send the very best ". FTD florist, lol. When you care about your mates appearance enough to compliment them every time, then return the favor in your appearance. Look at me on a daily basis as a housewife, look at how I dress when I have clients, when I go visit or have visitors, how I dress to go have dinner or to a casino, RARELY UPSCALE OR FANCY!!! NEVER EVER SLOPPY or not groomed in public!!!! Dianna Prince
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