7/28/2018 0 Comments Your personal apperance in public!Personal taste, personal hygiene, personal grooming habits, appreciation for a mate who cares about their appearance. The key word here is " personal ".
Working hard, paying bills, being a productive member of society, spending time in furthering your education, spending time improving relationships, etc., is a completely different effort made in your own appearance. You definitely do not have to have an upscale professional career that requires you to dress nice, don't have to be an avid lover of high fashion, upscale attire or name brands, and in my opinion you don't have to have a lot of money, to make an effort on your appearance. I think if you actually care, put thought and effort into your personal appearance, you're more likely to value that, maybe even demand it, from your mate. Birds of a feather usually flock together. I feel there are several reasons someone let's themselves go and stops caring about their appearance. Can be health related and impossible to change back. Can be career related, maybe stopped having a career outside the home and became a housewife. Another reason can be because they, themselves have gotten extremely comfortable, so comfortable within that relationship, they don't care about how they look anymore. There are also people who used to both, dress nice while out in public together, visiting family or having guests over, then both stop. The lack of attention when someone makes the time to look extra nice and special, can result in a negative reaction. If your spouse used to always compliment you, then stops, or it's become rare, that can make many people feel there's no real reason to dress nice anymore. Anyone who knows me, even a little bit, knows how plain I am, especially at home. I don't apply makeup to go grocery shopping, to check the mail or when I have guests or clients. It's not my norm. I usually don't apply makeup and style a wig, just to go shopping or visiting family. I'm at home every single day. I work at home, in our home, from home. I have clothes for every day, and all my activities. I don't wear a ball gown at home while cooking and cleaning, or to go visiting family. Yet what I wear to lounge in, housewife duties, or while I'm working online, I wouldn't wear when I have clients, guests, or going out in public. Okay so, that's just me, and everyone ain't like me. I can relate and deal with that because it's a FACT. I have seen people who won't leave the house without a full face of makeup, others than won't wear anything unless its name brand, or fleshly pressed and clean clothes. It doesn't matter where they go, who they see, they spend time and make a direct effort on their appearance every day. I can't relate to applying a full face of makeup to go run errands, to visit or have visitors. I can't relate to only dressing upscale every day. I can't relate to only buying expensive name brands. I can't relate to dressing fancy just to cook, clean or run errands. There's such a huge grey area in between upscale and fancy, and sloppy and lounging alone at home attire. Most people can't relate and wouldn't be dressing in a gown and tux for dinner every night. Ok so why would you wear the same clothing, to go visit family, go to an event, a public place to have fun with friends, somewhere special just not upscale, and wear what you wear to clean up your house? There are people who wake up, shower, brush their teeth, and throw on anything. They reach for the 1st thing they see, they put on wrinkled clothes, clothes they wore all day, before they showered, clothes they wore all day, the day before while running errands. Sure you're showered, what happened to caring about your appearance because you're going out in public? What about going the extra mile because you're not simply going to run errands? What about your personal taste in fashion? What about caring that your mate, family or friends enjoy seeing you look nice or dress up? I've always thought it looked odd when a celebrity woman dresses really nice, I mean the total package is there and everything is high quality and put together well, but her mate is dressed in basketball, gym attire with jeans, tennis shoes, etc. The styles are just different, but what's the same is the obvious awareness and importance of their appearance, to them and others. Maybe he's in jeans, Jersey and sneakers, but it's all nice, all matches, all of its clean, pressed and prepared. Whatever your personal style and taste are, pertaining to your appearance, no matter what, your appearance in public speaks way before you ever do! It shows exactly what you want people to know, without knowing you, it a direct reflection of the real you, on the inside. Your appearance shows how much effort and consciousness, it shows how much YOU care about yourself! There is no personal style involved, no consideration of your mate or others, no awareness on how it effects everything you do in public, and very little effort,.... in simply waking up, showering or not, throwing on clothes from yesterday, that are on the floor and wrinkled! I've felt this way since I can remember. Sure I love brand new clothes, name brand clothes, fancy upscale attire. I don't need that to look more than groomed. To say, your clean is basically saying that, only because you're not dirty, you look okay. Comparing something to something else, that's obviously negative, means what you're trying to justify isn't positive, and the only way to make it seem okay, is to compare it to something bad, or something worse. If other peoples appearance don't inspire you, so be it. What about you personally though? You personally feel ok looking sloppy? You personally don't feel odd or out of place when your mate or family visibly took the extra time to look extra nice, but you didn't? You don't feel odd putting on clothes you wore all day, the previous day to run around in or work in, after you've showered on a brand new day? You don't feel the need to somewhat plan outfits for special events, iron them, and lay them out? Believe me it's not like anyone who feels like that, can actually cover that outlook, up! Actions show folks, period, especially a course of actions and repeated pattern. No, you don't have to care about your appearance in public, to be a nice person, a caring person, a funny person, a talented person, an educated person, an older person, a rich person, a model or actor, or have a professional career in biz. You can be hard working, loyal, honest, and more, has nothing to do with YOU caring about your appearance. No, your clothes don't have to be April fresh, dry cleaned, pressed out, upscale, fancy and expensive, for you to be a productive member of society. Ask yourself this though, if people of the same gender, even the ones who dress how you consider nicely, don't inspire or motivate you, do you yourself enjoy and value a beautiful woman who's well dressed with the total package? A beautiful woman with great personal hygiene, regular grooming routine, has clean hair, fresh breath, lovely smelling perfume, soft luscious skin, finger and toe nails groomed and painted, flattering clothing, and spent hours getting ready? If that's all of value and brings you excitement and joy, then why wouldn't you do those EXACT same things, in return? I don't lie and I hate liars. I'm never ever in life going to tell someone they look cute, pretty, nice, good, love their clothes, hairdo, or things like their makeup, if I truly hate it or dislike it, SIMPLY to kiss up, kiss ass, pump them up for the sake of benefitting me, in return. I don't give compliments in hopes to get one back. Something or someone looks good, looks attractive, or smells fabulous, I will tell them. Compliments from me are genuine, just like the conversations I have with clients, friends, family, my publicist, my doctor, or even a perfect stranger at a casino. I don't compliment others to get ahead with them, or to get one back. If you look fabulous and I notice, I'm gonna say something. A beautiful woman who is clean yes, lol, but every aspect of what attracts you is present! Fresh breath, clean hair, groomed nails, flattering clothing, clean clothes, soft skin, lovely perfume, maybe even sexy under garments on, underneath a dress,...... TELL HER!!! " when you care enough to send the very best ". FTD florist, lol. When you care about your mates appearance enough to compliment them every time, then return the favor in your appearance. Look at me on a daily basis as a housewife, look at how I dress when I have clients, when I go visit or have visitors, how I dress to go have dinner or to a casino, RARELY UPSCALE OR FANCY!!! NEVER EVER SLOPPY or not groomed in public!!!! Dianna Prince
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Females and compliments to each other,.... people and complementing each other,....
Look, I was just on IG and I'm here to tell ya, there's only about a trillion beautiful gals from all walks of life! The whole concept of someone gorgeous not needing to here it, or probably hears it enough, so why tell them,.... that's a bunch of freaking bull! Without fans, followers, supporters, a public figure has nothing. Every public figure also has people they work with, their team, people who are inside their biz inner circle. Support has to come from strangers, as well as people you directly work with or for, and people involved in your career. Everyone is different and shows support different ways, but no ones perfect. I get all that, believe me. I don't think we have to have similar goals, similar personal lives, or similar personal taste, for support to me given, and in return taken. Unless you truly feel someone's work is awful, and or they are what you consider unattractive, then just because its obvious they're are very attractive and produce high quality in everything they do, DOESN'T mean don't give them their props!!!! Just because they have tons of fans, many supportive people in their lives, doesn't mean you can't be one of them. I say ESPECIALLY if you actually expect support in any way, you need to be actively giving it, in return. Supporting someone by paying them, is a consumer buying a service. Showing support, giving compliments, cross promotion, etc., not required between a seller and consumer. It's going above and beyond, because your biz relationship goes beyond. I don't expect support from my clients, on anything I produce that they weren't involved in, still very much noticed and appreciated when they do. But as far as telling me I'm beautiful, that my work is amazing, giving me my props as a professional model, that's up to the individual. In pinup I see so much focus on uplifting each other. Since pinup is for any race, any size, pretty much any age, and isn't very expensive to have as a hobby, its easily accessible to the mainstream. Pinups are usually very supportive with each other, but of course there are groups, clicks and friends within the pinup industry. I think their are 2 types of people in a public figures life, and a 3rd applies in many cases. Haters that actually waste energy hating, and no matter what you do they will criticize it. Then there are extremely supportive people, and no matter what you do they think its fantastic. The 3rd are people who will show support once in a blue moon, but secretly are jealous, and or they feel you get enough compliments and support from others. It's just like never telling someone you love them. Ok, so they know you do, does that mean never tell them. If someone is beautiful, you are around them or working around them often, why would it be beyond you to compliment them? Women,..... Men can compliment a woman and then go about their day. Men can compliment another man on their work, then move along with their day. I'm not saying ALL women, or all men, this or that. I'm saying many or the majority. Every individual is truly different. I'm a fan of professional pin-ups, professional models and social media, fashion influencers. I follow their work because I think it's great and I think they are beautiful. I show a bit of support when I can, because I enjoy their work. Some of these gals have 300k up to 3 million followers on Instagram. I've never thought, even when I've clicked like and commented, that it doesn't matter, that my support means nothing. I've never once thought, oh she's freaking gorgeous so no point in telling her! I'm too confident in my looks, to be insecure about another womans looks. If I'm around someone I think is beautiful, I will tell them. Just like when I see awesome images and a beautiful woman, I click like, or comment, and maybe even share it. I work with people in biz and have people in my family, that I have very little in common with, that's common with us all. I don't expect every single person in my life to be supportive, or extremely supportive like many others are, everyone is different. To bring this subject full circle. I realize beauty, talent and success can be powerful. It can cause many emotions brought by others. Some people are truly uncomfortable around someone they think is beautiful, or someone successful. Some people feel blessed and appreciate beauty and talent, and the success of someone they're around. Public figures need supporters, fans, followers. If you think you're the only hottest chick in the world, think again. If beautiful women threaten you, modeling is definitely not the biz for you, if you think because someone is gorgeous that they don't value hearing that, you're lost. Visit Instagram, you'll see endless beautiful and extremely gorgeous models, talented, popular and successful. If you happen to be someone who enjoys compliments on your appearance, or your work, and pretty much expect support from certain people, make sure you're willing to give it in return. If you're jealous, get over it! If you're clueless, get one. If complimenting others is beyond you, make it within your grasp. If someone's beauty or success threatens you, then up your game, or don't be around them. Women who can't compliment another woman, have personal issues. And I don't care who you are if you expect things you are unwilling to give, you will be limiting your opportunities and eliminating yourself from supportive people. Just yesterday I saw a photographer I worked with only once, and don't know when we will again, post saying his work was just published. I clicked like because the image was excellent and model was beautiful. I clicked like to show direct support!!! Not of our work, has nothing to do with me, and I wasn't exactly sure he'd appreciate the support, however I STILL showed some. Then I went beyond that and messaged him, congratulating him and telling him, once again, that I love his work. No one on Gods green earth forced me to do that! It literally took seconds, he was grateful and responded. We spoke about a future, 2nd shoot, and then I went about my day, and so did he. Cost nothing, took a minute of my 24 hour day, I gained nothing from it aside from his genuine appreciatio. He gained nothing from it, aside from being noticed and appreciated for his excellent work. Maybe it was seen as uplifting, but it was just automatic and 2nd nature to ME! See something I like, obviously I saw it, take a few seconds to show support, and a minute to send a compliment via messenger. Done. Its not like hes a total stranger, and I personally have complimented many perfect strangers. I am busy 7 days a week, no days off, full time housewife, family, friends, my career, my biz,my goals and responsibilities. I'm my own biggest supporter and happen to think that my modeling work is fabulous. Guess what? So do many people around me. I never ever get so wrapped up in myself, my career, my goals, my personal life, my success, where I'm above complimenting others!!! NEVER! It's essential for everyone a public figure works with to show support, and expecut it in return. Magazine owners, photographers, stylists, companies, clients, fans, followers, etc., all must show support of they expect it, period! That means complimenting them or their work that has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU, unless it's a fact that you think its crap! The title of this blog pretty much says it all! I've never met a single model who didn't appreciate complaints, and doesn't value support! Models with millions of followers obviously got that popular due to support. You can make an noticeable impact by being extremely supportive, being an extreme hater, or by being a supporter person often. You DON'T have to set out to be a motivator or uplifting person, to make a positive difference in someone's day! Believe me, there are people I know that I have very little in common with, don't motivate me personally, and have completely different taste than me, that I still support and they still support my work! Personally I don't need any of my clients to show my work support, when its given its noticed and valued. I don't need support or compliments on my modeling, to be paid and do my job as a stylist. Clients don't have to be my fans. Pinup Talk host Dianna Prince Las Vegas Sophia Loren and Jayne Mansfield |
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