2/14/2018 0 Comments Chivalry is dead!Chivalry. It's dead.
Let me 1st say that I'm well aware of all the millions of men from all walks of life, race, age, etc., that are romantic, that know the definition of chivalry. There millions of women who know the definition and value it's true meaning. I understand all about equality. You work, I work. You give and take, I give and take. Equalness means both people doing and giving, it doesn't always mean both people are giving the same exact things. It means you are both contributing, both working. Let's move on. Chivalry means the extra mile, above and beyond. You can fully appreciate having bills paid, roof over your head, food and having a home you are comfortable in, when you BOTH work to maintain it. You value that to the fullest! However let's keep it real and factual 1st. You'd be working, paying bills and maintaining your car, household, career and living your life, regardless. That's being an adult who's responsible, and a productive member of society. That's not being chivalrous. Folks go out on dates without showering. Throw on wrinkled clothes. Don't compliment their date upon 1st sight. Don't open her door. They plan last minute. They plan without thoughts of their date, their spouses taste. They go out looking at their cell phone, while other men are looking at their date, and complimenting their date before they even thought to! Ask yourself this, as a heterosexual man. Are you concerned, expect or prepared for a woman to open your door, pull out your chair, bring you flowers and candy, shield you from the rain? If you're a married man, can you see reversing the roles? Are YOU prepared to stay home, revolve your entire day and schedule around your wife? Are YOU prepared to cook homemade meals, serve, clean every day? Are you skilled and creative enough to cook FABULOUS meals, decorate your house to make it a home? Are YOU prepared mentally to cook while your wife plays Xbox? I mean honestly, I'm talking about role reversal. If your a man working and paying bills, and have a wife who's a housewife, I'm quite sure you're not ready to switch roles. Ok so back to chivalry. Your date, a woman spends 1 hour, 2 hours getting ready to go out with YOU. She looks flawless from head to toe. She smells fabulous! Her outfit is becoming and attractive. Nails painted, makeup on, hair done, every detail from visuals to her scent is of a woman, a groomed, beautiful lady. Now tell me as a man you wouldn't value ALL that! Your date isn't your bunk mate in 5th grade camp. Your date or wife isn't your bff growing up. She is not your mom. She is not your co worker, or mailman. A woman who is YOUR spouse isn't your roommate! Let's go back to equality. What ever happened to a man appreciating a femine woman? A lady appreciates a gentlemen. I value a well put together, above merely groomed, great smelling, well dressed man! Doesn't have to be every day or even often, .... that's why they are called special occasions, holidays, or dates My question is, just how exactly is it equal if one person isn't groomed, didn't go the extra mile? You appreciate a beautiful, femine woman, who smells great, talks with a sweet voice, etc. So how are you giving that in return? Where is it equal? Still if you only like women, and devoted to one woman, it's not the same as your boy, your bff, your roommate that's a guy looking great and smelling great. Get it? Romanticism plays a key role in a chivalrous man. It's not about how the woman could have picked a flower and gave it to you, you know damn well you don't want no flowers! It's not about how technically she could have pulled out your chair at dinner, opened your door, paid the check! YOU wanted to do those things as a man, a gentlemen. Just like a housewife can be loyal, honest, cook and clean, but she never set decorates the plates and she does NOT serve YOU! You value the cooking, but can value her going the extra mile by serving. I know plenty of housewives that can't cook, but are valued. Plenty can cook well but don't serve their husbands. A housewife usually goes above and beyond because she has the time and it's her career. So, back to doing things that aren't required to stay alive. Guys are always saying, real men don't do this and that, weak men do this and that, men love steak, men love boobs, men love beer, football and cars. If you're a man that says and agrees with those things, then you also feel woman don't do or shouldn't do, this and that, etc. I expect both a man and a woman to groom themselves before going out in public. I expect both genders to go above and beyond just grooming for a date. That special dress, lipstick, perfume, etc. Same with men. Going the extra mile, not every day, not for everyone. I guarantee you, men who are macho and say, men do this and that, do NOT want a man, or a spouse like them! They do NOT want to switch roles with their spouse. If YOU don't appreciate, " a woman's touch ", the effort and creativity in your home by a woman, the femininity of a woman, then you wouldn't ever be able to grasp the concept of chivalry. I personally love a masculine man. A hard working dirty finger nails, man! A worker bee who's intelligent. I like plans being made with thoughts of my likes. I like my door opened, chair pulled out. I like a gentlemen that showers before our date, grooms, cares about his own appearance and therefore values his date or mates appearance! If it's cold I like a man to offer his coat, shield me from the rain. Guys that are macho do not want a woman who is as well! I've NEVER screamed or protested about equality of the genders. I already know it means both people doing and giving, both working and contributing. You buy, I fry. Equal effort, it takes two. Chivalry is goingt that extra mile as a GENTLEMEN. Appreciating a woman for all the things you're not, all the things YOU love. Giving a flower to a beautiful flower of a woman, when you know darn well you don't want flowers given to you! There's something called sentiment. You may not go the extra mile for a friend. I mean if you're a guy, you may not do extra grooming, look your best, open his door, pull out his chair, etc., for a male friend. Also you may not dress nice everyday, but for special occasions and holidays you will. Date night can consist of chivalry. You plan ahead, you stay in, with plans of your spouses like and dislikes in mind. You ask her what she would like to watch and eat, etc. Dates, special occasions and holidays aren't every day, with everyone! I wholeheartedly disagree with a man, who loves women, being a, " yes man ", simply because he cares about his own appearance and cares that his woman does too. I disagree you're a punk because you took the time to find out what YOUR spouse likes and dislikes. I disagree you're a weak man of you appreciate a femine woman, and go the extra mile just to please her! There should NEVER be a single day that ends without a man telling his woman or wife she's beautiful. YOU may not cared to hear you're handsome every day, it does not mean she doesn't love hearing it! It never hurts to compliment YOUR spouse! It takes seconds and it's all based upon chivalry.
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